Staying safe on Just Naughty Singles and elsewhere

What we check here, and what we can't

Every photo uploaded to Just Naughty Singles is reviewed before it appears. Members who sign up through a VPN, or whose accounts are flagged, have to pass an ID and selfie check run by LEM Verify, and anyone can choose to take that check for an optional paid badge.

What nobody checks is what members say about themselves: age, location, relationship status, what they're looking for. So treat a profile as a claim, not a fact, until the person behind it has backed it up. Our fake profile guide shows how.

Protect your privacy before you're interesting to anyone

The safest details are the ones you never shared. Set these up before you start chatting.

• Your profile travels. Profiles here are shared with partner sites in the same network, so assume people beyond this site can see yours.
• Pick photos that don't identify you to strangers: no face in the main photo if you'd rather not, nothing showing your street, car or workplace.
• Use a separate email address for dating, and don't reuse a password from anywhere else.
• Hold back the details that let someone find you offline, such as your surname, employer and the gym you go to at 7am, until you've met and want them to know.
• Know your statement. Note the billing name shown at checkout. It may not say Just Naughty Singles, which is worth knowing if you share a bank account.

Warning signs, and what to do about each

Most of what goes wrong on hookup sites starts with a profile that isn't what it says. These are the patterns to know.

The rule that covers all of them: never send money, card details or ID to someone you've met online, and keep your face out of anything explicit you share. If you've already paid, where to report a dating scam lists the right service for each country.

Meeting up

A public first meeting, a friend who knows where you are and your own way home cover most of the risk.

• Meet somewhere public first, even if you both know what you want. Half an hour over a drink tells you a lot.
• Tell a friend who you're meeting, where and when, and agree a time to check in.
• Get yourself there and back. Have your own way home and enough charge on your phone.
• Stay sober enough to choose. You need to be able to judge the situation and give consent, and so do they.
• Leave whenever you want. You don't owe anyone an explanation or anything else.

The full version, including what to do if a meeting goes wrong, is our safety checklist for meeting someone from a hookup site.

Consent, every time

Consent means a clear, freely given yes to a specific thing, from someone able to give it. Agreeing to meet isn't agreeing to sex. Agreeing to one thing isn't agreeing to everything, and anyone can change their mind at any point. Someone who is very drunk, asleep or being pressured can't consent. If you're not sure, ask. If the answer isn't an enthusiastic yes, it's a no.

Sexual health

Bring condoms, use them, and talk about testing before you meet rather than in the moment. In the UK, NHS sexual health clinics are free and confidential, and you don't need a GP referral; the NHS has a clinic finder. In the US, the CDC's testing locator lists local services. Elsewhere, your local health service or GP can point you to the nearest clinic.

Where to get help

More detail on every country is in where to report a dating scam.